Category Archives: Collaborative Practice

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A Better Way to Separate

There is a movement afoot. Many of the professionals involved in helping families through separation are trying to help steer people away from long, drawn-out and costly court battles. There is talk of the concept of ‘separating together’. There is the supposed oxymoron of the ‘peacemaking lawyer.’ There is the idea of achieving something better … Continue Reading

A Parents’ Guide to Children and Divorce

Source   A Parents’ Guide to Children and Divorce Divorce is one of the most traumatic experiences a person can go through, whether they’re a spouse or a child of divorcing parents. Let’s look at some of the facts behind divorce and its effects on children, including how parents can help ensure their … Continue Reading

Divorce Fears

Separation and Divorce: these words bring up feelings of pain, disappointment, fear, and uncertainty.   Are you worried about the way this will impact your children, and what the financial implications will be – How will my children cope? Can I afford to stay in the home?  This is normal.  You don’t want to be the next casualty of … Continue Reading

Reducing Family Conflict

 “We don’t agree on much, but we want to protect the kids” Does this sound familiar?  Parental conflict in a family may be high whether you’re separating, living separate and apart under the same roof, or working through conflict as a married couple.  And it comes as no surprise to you that the emotional health and well-being of … Continue Reading

Divorce – What is the First Step?

Separation and Divorce: These are ugly words. They conjure up feelings of pain, disappointment, fear, and uncertainty. What is the first step? How do I get through this?  I remember when I went through my own divorce (yes, divorce lawyers sometimes get divorced too) how stressful it was for me. I feared the impact it … Continue Reading

Ontario Collaborative Law Federation Conference 2012

The 2012 OCLF Conference will be held in Horseshoe Resort in Simcoe County, just north of Barrie on September 26, 27, 28, 2012.  I will be chairing it along with Sue Cook and Jackie Ramler. We have formed sub-committees with volunteers from throughout Ontaro.  The theme is "Building High Performance Teams".  The Ontario Collaborative Law … Continue Reading

“Mandatory Information Program” Comes Too Late

The Attorney General Chris Bentley, pictured on the left, announced that effective July 18, 2011, all new applicants to Family Court in Ontario must attend the Mandatory Information Program. This is a 2 hour program held at courthouses across the province explaining the Family Court process and alternatives. The intention of the program is to … Continue Reading

Why Do I Need To Do A Sworn Financial Statement?

Everyone hates having to do a sworn financial statement. This is a court form used in Ontario to list your assets, debts, income and expenses.  It is long, cumbersome and, frankly, a pain to complete. If your case is in Court in Ontario, you must complete the form. The Rules require you to complete it … Continue Reading

Family Court versus Collaborative Practice: You Choose

Ontario’s Chief Justice Warren Winkler advocates for changes to the family court system to make it more efficient, less adversarial and more cost-effective, according to The Globe and Mail. He suggests that litigants should be diverted to mediation or an alternative process to the traditional adversarial process. While I admire the Chief Justice’s ambition, frankly, … Continue Reading

Ten Myths About Separation and Divorce

Myth 1: Divorce is Too Easy I have helped hundreds of families through separation and divorce and can say that none of my clients felt that divorce was "too easy". It is a painful process. Everyone struggles through it – whether the marriage lasted 45 years or two weeks (I have helped clients through both … Continue Reading

A Good Divorce Can Fix a Family

Psychotherapist, author and speaker, Donna Ferber wrote an excellent blog called "Is There Such a Thing as a Good Divorce?"  I reproduce it in its entirety below:   Imagine a marriage where both parties are unhappy and bickering all the time. Their values and goals are different. There is no chemistry between them. The children are exposed … Continue Reading

How Collaborative Practices Saves Money in NJ and Ontario

Linda L. Piff, a respected lawyer and blogger in New Jersey, writes in her blog, reproduced below, that Collaborative Practice is far more cost effective than litigation. Although most family law cases do eventually settle, they do so on the court house steps after most of the damage of litigation has occurred. The inflammatory court … Continue Reading

Barrie Collaborative Lawyers Help Overcome Anger.

Anger. Have you ever felt so angry at your spouse you could just scream? I remember being so angry I just wanted to kick the furniture or throw something at the wall. I was furious. I bet everyone who has gone through a divorce has been overwhelmed by anger at one time or another. It’s normal. Our … Continue Reading

Divorce Fair in Barrie?

We need a Divorce Fair in Barrie, Ontario! Recently, Halifax hosted it’s first divorce fair. It was an opportunity to learn everything you need to know about getting a divorce, and how to prepare for life after divorce. Wow! What a great idea. The fair was two days: one day for men and one day … Continue Reading

Is Your Divorce Driving You Crazy?

Are you going through a divorce? Do you sometimes feeling like you are losing your mind? Maybe you can’t concentrate or you are constantly feeling like you are about to cry? Maybe you are drinking too much? Or working too hard? Or shopping too much? Maybe you have been willing to try anything to cope and … Continue Reading

International Academy of Collaborative Professionals

I just returned from an amazing conference of the IACP held in Minneapolis. It was a fantastic learning opportunity and chance to meet some of the best collaborative practitioners from around the world. I believe there were about 550 people in attendance, 48 of whom were from outside of North America. The outgoing president is Canadian Nancy … Continue Reading

Why Dads Suffer in Court

Susan Piggs recently had an excellent article in the Toronto Star entitled "Divorced Dads Can’t Catch a Break" . She outlines the many grievances of fathers who feel mistreated by the Ontario Court system. It’s sad to read the stories of so many aggrieved fathers. Many of these fathers believe that judges are intentionally against … Continue Reading

Interview with Financial Specialist Jackie Ramler

Jackie Ramler is a financial specialist. She helps clients who are going through a separation or divorce resolve the financial issues. We have used her many times and find she does excellent work, saving our clients thousands of dollars in fees and helping them attain a resolution in a timely manner. She is the owner … Continue Reading

Resolving Your Divorce Sitting Next To Each Other?

The Toronto Star did a great article about clients wanting to cut the costs of divorce by staying out of court. I especially like the introduction: “Alex Crookes knew he was in for a divorce with a difference the minute he walked into a lawyer’s office with his ex-wife, Lynne Maclennan. The couple instinctively sat … Continue Reading