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Kids and Divorce

You may have come to the point where you admit to yourself that your marriage is over. You haven’t admitted it to anyone else because you were trying to make it work for the sake of your kids. But despite your best efforts to make the marriage work, the conflict between you is unbearable. So, … Continue Reading

How To Reduce Stress for Children of Divorce

Daily structure and routine can help your children feel more secure. Children often find school stressful.  Add to that the anxiety and worries of a recent separation and it can be a very difficult time for children.  Giving your children a solid foundation of daily activities can help alleviate stress, anxiety and help with the … Continue Reading

Divorce Apps: “There’s an app for that!”

Yes, there are apps to help make divorce go more smoothly. Edward Weinstein’s most recent blog introduces some new ones that can help make divorce less stressful and more functional. In addition, I encourage you to use Skype or Google Hangout. These are great ways of doing video conferencing with your children when you can’t see … Continue Reading

What’s Trending in Divorce?

Avvo recently did a survey of 890 consumers and 447 lawyers. Their results are in the infographic below. The number one concern for consumers going through a divorce is cost. Not surprising. Yet so many people end up in Family Court. Here is a good comparison of the costs of Ontario Family Court proceedings versus Collaborative … Continue Reading

Children and Divorce – How You Can Help Your Child Adjust

A child of divorce writes on how to help your child during divorce. What better source? Thanks to Melissa Farrell a freelance writer who lives in Kansas for her insights. Speaking as a child of divorce, every situation is different. My parents were high school sweethearts and were together for over 10  years before they decided to … Continue Reading

5 Mistakes Made in Divorce Proceedings

Today’s guest blogger is writing about the 5 mistakes made by people who are in family court. While the advice is sound, it reinforces to me how undesirable it is to be in Family Court. It really is an awful experience. But, alas, if you are in Family Court, heed the following good advice… or … Continue Reading

Build Trust in Divorce and Avoid Family Court

Trust is essential for every relationship and is often damaged when people are getting divorced. It can be damaged many different ways. An affair, a lie or a betrayal can damage trust. Trust may also be broken when people change and no longer understand each other. They just grow apart.  In my life, I know … Continue Reading

Handling the Holidays after Divorce

Christmas is for children but when Mom and Dad have separated or divorced, it can be a difficult time. I remember how difficult it was my first year after separation. I was devastated. Now, many years later, we schedule our "Christmas" any time between December 22nd and December 28th. The actual date does not matter… … Continue Reading

Helping Children Deal with Divorce

I have four children and my wife is pregnant. Children are the focus of our lives. The first three are from my first marriage. I remember feeling very worried about how they would do when we separated. I did some research at the time and did my best to make it work for them. I can … Continue Reading

Divorce – What is the First Step?

Separation and Divorce: These are ugly words. They conjure up feelings of pain, disappointment, fear, and uncertainty. What is the first step? How do I get through this?  I remember when I went through my own divorce (yes, divorce lawyers sometimes get divorced too) how stressful it was for me. I feared the impact it … Continue Reading

Divorce and Financial Planning

Sandra Ramos is a financial planner who has helped many clients who are going through a divorce make good financial decisions about their future. Sandra graciously agreed to offer a guest blog with her insights. Here it is.  Following any marriage breakdown there is a time of emotional healing, but there is also a need for … Continue Reading

Protecting the Children of “Baby Mommas”

Brenda Shapiro, a lawyer in Florida, submitted the following article to me about how in the USA there are provisions for wealthy parents to pay money into trust funds for their child as child support. We don’t have such statutory provisions in  Ontario, Canada but I really like the idea. In Brenda’s example, a young … Continue Reading

Four Steps to Take with Your Child After Divorce

Helping your children adjust after your divorce is essential. Heather Smith offers excellent advice on what you should do to help you child after the dust settles.   Here is Heather’s blog:     4 Steps to Take with Your Child After Divorce You have sat your child down and given the dreaded speech that you … Continue Reading

Forensic Accounting and Divorce

The role of a Forensic Accountant in a divorce is not well known. Erin Palmer offers great insights into this valuable professional who can help uncover hidden assets or income of a deceptive spouse. Here is Erin’s blog:  All’s Fair in Love and War, Except in Divorce – That’s What Forensic Accountants Are For You … Continue Reading

Surviving Holidays Without Your Children

Suchada, also known as Mama Eve, did an excellent blog  about what to do when you don’t have your children for the holidays, especially for the first time. She is honest, insightful and offers hope about how to cope without your children.  Divorce sucks. You have a choice how you respond to its challenges. You … Continue Reading

Your First Christmas, Hanukkah or Kwanzza Since Divorce? Ugh.

Are you dreading Christmas? Will it be your first  special holiday since your separation?  Are you depressed about not having your children for New Year’s Eve, or Hanukkah, Kwanzaa or some other special day. Whatever the holiday, you are not alone. I remember the first Christmas that my three boys were with their mother Christmas Eve … Continue Reading

Kids in Divorce. What Do They Need?

              Here is a link to a fantastic set of articles about children and divorce. It includes the following: What children of divorce need Age level reactions to loss 10 Commandments of Divorce Steps for Recreating a Strong Single Parent Family Four Types of Parental Relationships Post-Divorce Plus more…..  It … Continue Reading

How To Tell Adult Children About Your Separation

Separation and divorce is hard on children. Frankly, it’s hard on everyone, adult children included. Often separating couples see their adult children as being more able to cope with their parents’ separation than younger children. I am not sure this is true.  Erica Manfred is the author of "He’s History, You’re Not: Surviving Divorce After Forty." … Continue Reading