Category Archives: Divorce

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Reducing Family Conflict

 “We don’t agree on much, but we want to protect the kids” Does this sound familiar?  Parental conflict in a family may be high whether you’re separating, living separate and apart under the same roof, or working through conflict as a married couple.  And it comes as no surprise to you that the emotional health and well-being of … Continue Reading

Smart Divorce Options

Most separations and divorces are stressful and painful. You can choose to make it better or worse by the process you choose to use. The following are your choices.    Collaborative Practice Collaborative Practice is a future-focused, efficient, cost-effective, creative, problem-solving process. It is not about fighting or finding blame. With the help of professionals, … Continue Reading

Post-Secondary Education and Child Support

Does child support end when a child reach age 18 years? Our lawyer Lynn Kirwin answers this question in detail.  The courts have recognized that financial dependency does not end upon a child turning 18.  Under the Divorce act and the Family Law Act there is no upper age limit under which support automatically terminates. … Continue Reading

Should I Spy on My Soon-to-be Ex?

We often hear clients say things like the following…. “Last night, I searched through Anne’s emails on her computer, and this is what I found…”   “I found these letters between Frank and his lawyer…” “I installed spyware on Sue’s computer, and I’ve been recording her phone calls to Holly and Aiden, and you should … Continue Reading

How to Resolve Your Separation or Divorce

Most clients have three goals: They want:  1. A peaceful and fair resolution;  2. A resolution achieved as soon as possible; and,  3. To keep their financial and emotional costs to a minimum.  Are these your goals too?  When I went through my own divorce, I shared these goals. I too wanted to achieve a … Continue Reading

Uncontested Divorce: How To Get Yours

Obtaining a uncontested divorce is the final step in the dissolution of your marriage. Usually we resolve all of the issues of your divorce including issues related to the children (custody and access), child support, spousal support and property issues before we proceed with the divorce. We settle these issues in a separation agreement or, … Continue Reading

How To Reduce Stress for Children of Divorce

Daily structure and routine can help your children feel more secure. Children often find school stressful.  Add to that the anxiety and worries of a recent separation and it can be a very difficult time for children.  Giving your children a solid foundation of daily activities can help alleviate stress, anxiety and help with the … Continue Reading

Divorce Apps: “There’s an app for that!”

Yes, there are apps to help make divorce go more smoothly. Edward Weinstein’s most recent blog introduces some new ones that can help make divorce less stressful and more functional. In addition, I encourage you to use Skype or Google Hangout. These are great ways of doing video conferencing with your children when you can’t see … Continue Reading

What’s Trending in Divorce?

Avvo recently did a survey of 890 consumers and 447 lawyers. Their results are in the infographic below. The number one concern for consumers going through a divorce is cost. Not surprising. Yet so many people end up in Family Court. Here is a good comparison of the costs of Ontario Family Court proceedings versus Collaborative … Continue Reading

Children and Divorce – How You Can Help Your Child Adjust

A child of divorce writes on how to help your child during divorce. What better source? Thanks to Melissa Farrell a freelance writer who lives in Kansas for her insights. Speaking as a child of divorce, every situation is different. My parents were high school sweethearts and were together for over 10  years before they decided to … Continue Reading

5 Mistakes Made in Divorce Proceedings

Today’s guest blogger is writing about the 5 mistakes made by people who are in family court. While the advice is sound, it reinforces to me how undesirable it is to be in Family Court. It really is an awful experience. But, alas, if you are in Family Court, heed the following good advice… or … Continue Reading

Build Trust in Divorce and Avoid Family Court

Trust is essential for every relationship and is often damaged when people are getting divorced. It can be damaged many different ways. An affair, a lie or a betrayal can damage trust. Trust may also be broken when people change and no longer understand each other. They just grow apart.  In my life, I know … Continue Reading

Separation Agreements: The Devil in the Details

There is a saying… "the Devil is in the Details"…. meaning details that are overlooked can cause problems later. No doubt this is true when drafting a separation agreement. Attention to detail is essential.  The top ten big issues that need to be resolved are:  Where will the children live?  How much time with the … Continue Reading

Handling the Holidays after Divorce

Christmas is for children but when Mom and Dad have separated or divorced, it can be a difficult time. I remember how difficult it was my first year after separation. I was devastated. Now, many years later, we schedule our “Christmas” any time between December 22nd and December 28th. The actual date does not matter… … Continue Reading

Helping Children Deal with Divorce

I have four children and my wife is pregnant. Children are the focus of our lives. The first three are from my first marriage. I remember feeling very worried about how they would do when we separated. I did some research at the time and did my best to make it work for them. I can … Continue Reading

Divorce – What is the First Step?

Separation and Divorce: These are ugly words. They conjure up feelings of pain, disappointment, fear, and uncertainty. What is the first step? How do I get through this?  I remember when I went through my own divorce (yes, divorce lawyers sometimes get divorced too) how stressful it was for me. I feared the impact it … Continue Reading

Divorce and Financial Planning

Sandra Ramos is a financial planner who has helped many clients who are going through a divorce make good financial decisions about their future. Sandra graciously agreed to offer a guest blog with her insights. Here it is.  Following any marriage breakdown there is a time of emotional healing, but there is also a need for … Continue Reading
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