Tag Archives: Support

How to Spot Signs of Parental Alienation in Your Family

Parental Alienation is harmful to children. The negative impact of alienation may include depression, substance abuse, low self-esteem, self-hatred, guilt, poor interpersonal relationships, distorted view of reality, and self-doubt. Most of my clients don’t realize how harmful it is to the child’s development to try to separate the child from the other parent during your … Continue Reading

My Ex is Sneaky about Finances – What Should I Do?

I’m surprised at the number of married clients who tell me they either haven’t been involved in the family finances, or they don’t know what their spouse owns.  In many of these cases, their partner was secretive, or dismissive or evasive when faced with questions about the family, the business or their own finances. Money … Continue Reading

Discussing Your Divorce: Avoiding Dangerous Advice

  There comes a time in our life when you must make decisions based on what lies ahead in your future. The decision could be to pack up and move to another country for a promotion, go back to school, get married, start a family, even file for divorce or separation. These choices are determined … Continue Reading

Limited Scope Retainers and Self-Reps

                        Are Limited Scope Retainers Right for Everyone? You may feel that you have a strong case. Feeling that you have a good case is different than proving that you have a good one. Remember you need to be realistic. I can provide you with a professional … Continue Reading

Uncontested Divorce: How To Get Yours

Obtaining a uncontested divorce is the final step in the dissolution of your marriage. Usually we resolve all of the issues of your divorce including issues related to the children (custody and access), child support, spousal support and property issues before we proceed with the divorce. We settle these issues in a separation agreement or, … Continue Reading

Build Trust in Divorce and Avoid Family Court

Trust is essential for every relationship and is often damaged when people are getting divorced. It can be damaged many different ways. An affair, a lie or a betrayal can damage trust. Trust may also be broken when people change and no longer understand each other. They just grow apart.  In my life, I know … Continue Reading

The “Roll” of RRSP’s in Your Separation and Divorce

Registered Retirement Savings Plans are the main savings vehicle for many Canadians, especially those who don’t have a pension through their employment. As a result, upon separation and divorce, RRSP’s are part of the property settlement.  Our guest blog this week is  by Sandra Ramos, a well known financial advisor in Barrie, Ontario.  She has great … Continue Reading

Helping Children Deal with Divorce

I have four children and my wife is pregnant. Children are the focus of our lives. The first three are from my first marriage. I remember feeling very worried about how they would do when we separated. I did some research at the time and did my best to make it work for them. I can … Continue Reading

Protecting the Children of “Baby Mommas”

Brenda Shapiro, a lawyer in Florida, submitted the following article to me about how in the USA there are provisions for wealthy parents to pay money into trust funds for their child as child support. We don’t have such statutory provisions in  Ontario, Canada but I really like the idea. In Brenda’s example, a young … Continue Reading

Determining Income for Support Purposes

Determining income is the first step toward determining the proper level of child support and spousal support. This is easy to do for employees. We just look at line 150 of their personal income tax return. The challenge is determining the proper level of income for those people who are self-employed or are employed by … Continue Reading

Your First Christmas, Hanukkah or Kwanzza Since Divorce? Ugh.

Are you dreading Christmas? Will it be your first  special holiday since your separation?  Are you depressed about not having your children for New Year’s Eve, or Hanukkah, Kwanzaa or some other special day. Whatever the holiday, you are not alone. I remember the first Christmas that my three boys were with their mother Christmas Eve … Continue Reading

Why Do I Need To Do A Sworn Financial Statement?

Everyone hates having to do a sworn financial statement. This is a court form used in Ontario to list your assets, debts, income and expenses.  It is long, cumbersome and, frankly, a pain to complete. If your case is in Court in Ontario, you must complete the form. The Rules require you to complete it … Continue Reading

Why Is the Date of Separation Important?

Do you remember the day you separated? How did it happen? Was a note left or an email sent to say it’s over? Maybe a text? Maybe it was a screaming match? Maybe it was just a sad mutual realization that your marriage was over? Regardless of how it happens, the date of separation is … Continue Reading

How to Change Child Support in Barrie, Ontario

In Ontario, child support can be changed if there is a change in circumstances such as a change in income or a change in residence of the children. Here are the steps.  The first step is to determine the payor’s income. (The "payor" is the person who has the children less than 40% of the … Continue Reading

$150,000 Per Month Paternity Suit

Can you imagine receiving a $150,000 per month, tax free? Karen Sala certainly could and sued Keanu Reeves hoping he would be ordered to pay that tidy sum to her. She was not successful. A recent article in The Star declares that the paternity case against Keanu Reeves by Sala was dismissed by the Ontario … Continue Reading

Interview with Nancy Newton of Rainbows

Nancy Newton is the Executive Director of Rainbows. It is described on their website as "an international not-for-profit organization that fosters emotional healing among children grieving a loss from a life-altering crisis. These losses, among others, include separation, divorce, death, incarceration and foster care." I believe Rainbows really helps kids deal with the emotional journey … Continue Reading

Victim of Assault Pays Spousal Support

"Doctor Must Support Abusive Husband" is the headline in the Globe and Mail newspaper, on September 23, 2009. I am sure many people were outraged at the judge who made this decision. In reality, I would be outraged if I was the female doctor whose husband was convicted of assaulting me and now I  had to pay him … Continue Reading

Spousal Support and Fault: Is There a Connection?

In the Ottawa Divorce Blog, the author is critical of the Supreme Court of Canada’s decision in Leskun v. Leskun suggesting the Court is allowing "fault" to creep back into whether someone should get spousal support. In that case, the wife claimed she was still unable to work 8 years after the marriage because she … Continue Reading
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